on patience

Sometimes we fall for the wrong reasons and end up being hurt again and again. The problem is we are always in a hurry to find our happy ending. People are usually impatient. We never trust God’s time so we eagerly take the pen in His hands to start writing our own story. But the more we become impulsive the more we hurt ourselves. The ending that we wish for gets even more elusive reaching out of our grasp.

Peer pressure has been one of the reasons why we want an instant solution to our dying love life. I think envy also played a part to our decisions. Just because our friends have their partners doesn’t mean that it is also a requirement for us to have our own. Remember that people move from one phase to another at a different pace. Everything has their timeframe. Don’t seek for love just because you feel you have to. In the first place you don’t look for love it comes naturally at the right time. Patience is a virtue.

One is not obliged to follow what everyone around him is telling him to do. Morrie once said ‘forget what the future says’. Yes, indeed there is such a saying that goes mind your own business and there is a term such as ‘individualized’ what works for your best friend might not be good for you.

What I am trying to say is do not rush love for it will surely come. It doesn’t matter if you are the only single in the group. Use this phase to your advantage. It pays to wait. Patience is one of the most important things that one must learn because most of the times our plans never turn out the way you want them to be. Trust God’s plans and do not cannon ball things. One thing I learned about God is that He sometimes bring us to our ending but doesn’t reveal it at once maybe because we are not yet ready for it, so He made us sidetrack along the path to prepare us to handle responsibilities.

I would be a hypocrite if I don’t say that I am sometimes jealous of my other friends and there have been many instances that I have been seduced to snatch the pen from the hands of our Father and start writing my own version of my happy ending. Thank God I always find the strength to fight back and shake off those thoughts. It would not do me any good if I stray from His path. I know He’s busy writing my story, so for now I’m gonna sit down and wait for it to happen. I have fueled myself with enough patience and prayers to go along way. I trust His plans. I know my time will come. I never wanna make the same mistakes that I did so I don’t care about the peer pressure anymore. I have forgotten what the culture has said. I only care about His love and His words for now that would be enough.

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

~Jeremiah 29:11